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Are you stressed about going off to college? I know starting a new school can be weird and stressful but the best way to deal with it is to try to be as prepared as you possibly can. When I started community college at HCC in Texas I wasn’t sure what to expect because I was homeschooled but, I quickly learned that it was going to be pretty hard for me. What did I do to help myself get more comfortable at school? I started to make some friends who I stay in contact with to this day. They are all pretty active and hang out with each other but I have always been one who enjoys buckling down and getting work done.

What is the best way for you to get adjusted to your new school away from home? I would have to say the best way to get adjusted is to know that your ready, know that you are mentally and emotionally prepared because for some people it can be one of the most emotional experiences of their lives besides marriage. When I was a kid I was homeschooled so the best way for me to be social and get to know people was to go off to summer camps. I went to girl scout camps, horse camps, and I went to the sea camps down at A&M Galveston and it all prepared me for living away from home, but the one thing that most people take for granted when they move away from home is their parents. I have to say that when I left home I never thought I would miss my parents but I do and I email my mom regularly now. Yes, that is right I still email.

Is college difficult? College is only difficult if you have a negative outlook on it and take the first impressions in a horrible way. I had a roommate my first year here (fall and spring semester) that always was really down on herself and she went through a small depression and she would always bring her problems to me and I would be more than happy to listen but there were times where I just didn’t want too. There is a time that comes up in life when you have to make a decision about the people around you and it will be one of the hardest things that you will do. The best advice I can give to someone who is or was in my position is to help them as long as you can and then when you start to see it impacting you negatively then take a step back and let them know that you need to take some time for yourself.

How do you deal with negativity during college? In a dorm especially you can get stressed really easily but, one of the best things to do is find a place where you can be by yourself and have time to think and decompress everything that has happened. It can be anywhere, the courtyard, a library any place on your campus that you find where not a lot of people go is probably going to be your get away. My school has a small boat basin and when I really need it I go down and sit by the water and just let all my worries and stresses melt away. It is really important for your mental and physical health to find a place where you can sit down or workout and get everything out of your mind or you might have a breakdown and then no one will know why unless you tell them.

I had a week or so during the spring semester where I wasn’t talking to my roommate or suitemates because I was going through things. I knew that I wasn’t myself and the first thing I wanted to do was crawl into my shell and cry, but instead, I got myself out of the dorm and went for a run in the parking lot every day and I would sit at the boat basin and go to the library to study. It was the best choice that I made for myself and it happens pretty often to me and I know how to combat it when I feel like I am not being myself anymore.

What is the most important thing to have in college? The most important thing to have in college is to know who you are, what you stand for, know that you have your family behind you supporting you and to make friends that will support you no matter what. I started going with my friend to a cigar lounge where he would play Dungeons and Dragons (D&D) and I got to know the owner, and the other people which quickly meant that I was around people who were going to support me. It was important for me to have support around me because I do get stressed easily and when I am stressed I cry which is normal because it is just the body telling us to let out all the pent-up feelings.

After my first semester at University, I failed two classes and went on academic probation, during the spring semester I worked harder than I did before to pass my class but I only failed one class which was Business Calculus. I am still on academic probation and it sucks because I am at my dream school and if I don’t get my GPA up to a 2.0 or higher I can get suspended or kicked out of school. This is the type of stress that everyone will face at least once in their lives unless they are in the honors programs then they won’t worry. I work hard and I study a lot but what’s the point of studying if you aren’t doing good in school? Well, that is negative thinking and when I get into that thinking I like to go to the gym or go sit on the boat dock or the beach and get myself back into a positive mindset.

How does college change you? College can change you in the best way possible especially if you haven’t found yourself yet. If you have found yourself then it will help you learn even more and help you understand how you work and how things affect you. I know myself and I have continued to learn more about myself as I grow and change into the adult that I am today, but it’s also about changing into a better you. What do I mean by a better you? Well, I mean that if you know who you are, what you stand for and enjoy life then it will start to throw curve balls at you to see how it will affect you and it’s your choice always if it is handled in a good positive way or  if it isn’t handled at all and things become negative. The best way to deal with that is to once again know who you are and know how to make yourself get into the process of thinking quick on your feet.

I have had to learn in the middle of a semester to change my study habits from occasionally studying to studying on weekends to studying every day. It is a constant struggle and there is no right way to do any of it but, our parents raised us to know how to deal with things like this ever since we were kids. The one thing about college is you leave knowing that your parent’s love you and care for you, but you never realize how much you appreciate them until they aren’t around 24/7.

One thing me, my brother and sister learned when we went off to Universities is that we grew up in such a good space where we could study what we wanted and know what we ant, read what we want and still have fun. However when we were homeschooling we went on road trips to state and national parks around the United States (I am from Texas), and we never realized how much we appreciated those trips till we left home and were around people who came straight out of high school. We learned that we were more mature and much more level headed and we never wanted to do anything too crazy. There are many people who are raised with going to public and private schools every day Monday to Friday and have become level headed and then when they get to college they just want to party and don’t realize how much work there actually is to do.

What advice do you have for incoming students? The best advice I can give to people is what has already been said. Know yourself, know what you stand for, know how you study and how to keep negativity out of your life or at least under control. It’s hard to know how to get things under control when your parents aren’t around. The best piece of advice I could give to anyone leaving home for the first time is that when something bad happens don’t go run to your parents or guardians try to handle it yourself first and then if you still can’t figure it out talk to the people you trust the most. I have had to do this on numerous occasions but I always manage to figure it out on my own. It’s also okay f you don’t have a job while in school because you can find ways to make yourself feel good about what you are doing by working your hardest. I don’t have a job and I feel so much better at the end of a semester when I see grades that aren’t failing grades.

Just know to be yourself and keep in touch with your parents but also learn who you are and how you work, don’t be afraid to ask for help and most importantly be sure to have fun when you are done studying.

 

 

Work Hard and get Results!

I had an economics test today and I didn’t do so good on the first test so I decided to change up my study habits, where I study before class and then I go into class and get the information again. I am so proud of myself and this is the biggest deal for me.

If you are in college and you have done bad on a test before then you understand that every time you do bad you have to turn around and change your study habits. I did exactly that by studying before class and then by getting the information twice, it worked really well. What also helps is if I write things down on index cards. I work hard and now the results are showing on my tests.

This is only a short post because I haven’t been feeling too good but I am doing much better in class now. It does show that if you know how to study for you then your hard work will show on tests and homework.

Keeping things together

Keeping it together emotionally and mentally is something that people with anxiety deal with on a daily basis, and it becomes even harder if you are a natural stressor. What I mean is that if you are like me and stress about little things that you don’t need to stress out about then it might become hard to keep yourself together mentally and emotionally. I am having that problem right now actually. I am going through some little life changes and I am still fighting to get myself out of academic probation and I only have the fall semester to get out of it now. The thing is once I get out of it I need to stay out of it. I don’t really care if I get a D in a class at this point because if it is the minimum grade that I need then I will take it since it will mean that I pass the course.

I haven’t been interested in writing recently so that is why the posts have been short and about whatever I can write about in a few short minutes. Sometimes people just need to get a break (vacation) from life and just spend time with their family and friends. For me, I like to spend time with myself and my family but that is only because I am a homebody and it is what makes me happy.

When I am at home I get to relax but then pretty quickly I need to take care of a 75-gallon fish tank that me and my dad share. Anytime I come home from college I have to clean the glass in the tank and the glass on top where the light shines through and then I have to change the filter and add water to the pump area. I feel like I am the one doing all the work on the tank even though it is both of ours and I am the one who keeps it maintained and checks the levels and keeps the fish happy. When I am away my dad feeds the fish and I don’t know what else but I know he does that much.

Recently I found out from cleaning the tank that we have a lot of little starfish which look like they are babies. Not too sure where they came from but I am excited to see if they survive especially since we have one big starfish that rules the tank as it is. I make sure my dog is happy to and that becomes increasingly difficult when I need to clean up the fish tank and make sure all the fish are happy and healthy.

I tend to be superstitious but I have superstitious habits that are backward’s from what people normally think. When people say a black cat crossing your path is bad luck I think of it as good luck, same with walking under a ladder and when I mirror breaks well I don’t even believe that one. The one that gets to me the most is people telling me good luck when I have a test or quiz that I need to take. You see ever since I went to community college I found that when people wished me good luck on a test I did bad and so I would try to leave before anyone would tell me anything and then I would also try to not tell anyone that I had a test. I still do these things but now I am a little weirder about it. I see people telling me good luck on a test as bad luck since I always do badly on the tests when I am told that. What I do is I try to think about something that will make me calmer than what I would feel if I was told good luck and that tends to work for me.

I know being superstitious is a weird thing but it is still normal especially for millennials like me. I don’t know why I am superstitious but I don’t take things the way that they are meant to be taken. I always end up flipping them around and then it eventually works.

Hot days and feeling bad

I know it is a normal thing for women to deal with not feeling good during hot days, but sometimes it isn’t easy for me to stay sitting up or standing throughout the day. I have a hard time during the hottest part of the day recently and I have to just sit around on my bed and lay a little bit and just hope that I feel better.

I can never explain why I feel bad during the hottest part of the day but it only happens when I am in Houston which is probably one of the other reasons my family tells me that I shouldn’t live in Houston in the future because they say it “makes me sick”.

What my family means is that I suffer from bad head aches, migraines, and super bad allergies. I cannot deal with the pain I get from these things and I know that most people don’t know how I feel during the day most of the time but I always try and get through it without taking aspirin or anything stronger than that.

Interested in certain Shows

I am one of those women who is enthralled with the Investigation Discovery channel. It isn’t a good to be obsessed with it but it is just one of those things that I can’t just back away from.

Once I start watching the channel it takes a really boring show to come on for me to walk away. My mom doesn’t really understand why I am interested in it but I just find it so interesting. Who doesn’t find it interesting to learn about why people murder others. It takes someone special to kill another person.

What happens with people when they decide to kill someone? I never know the answers but it does make me quite paranoid after watching the shows. It just makes me constantly watch my back which is sometimes good seeing as I once had an ex that would stalk me but never crossed the line to enter the house where I grew up when I was there or to walk up to me or to write letters. I do know that I enjoy watching these shows because it shows me what to look out for and how I should probably defend myself if I were to be in that position.

Tests

So I just found out that I didn’t do so good on a test that I had taken before. I did pretty bad and I seriously can’t believe that it happened, so now it just means that I have to try harder.

How do people handle doing badly on tests over and over and over again? Well if it is someone like me then I can’t express how hard it is for me to handle it. The one way that I do handle it is to write in my journal because it makes me write anything and everything that goes through my mind. I just can never wrap my head around what is happening in my mind.

I have to say that when I find out I do badly on a test is that is somewhat important, but what can I do about it besides try harder and read the chapters more than once.