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Are you stressed about going off to college? I know starting a new school can be weird and stressful but the best way to deal with it is to try to be as prepared as you possibly can. When I started community college at HCC in Texas I wasn’t sure what to expect because I was homeschooled but, I quickly learned that it was going to be pretty hard for me. What did I do to help myself get more comfortable at school? I started to make some friends who I stay in contact with to this day. They are all pretty active and hang out with each other but I have always been one who enjoys buckling down and getting work done.

What is the best way for you to get adjusted to your new school away from home? I would have to say the best way to get adjusted is to know that your ready, know that you are mentally and emotionally prepared because for some people it can be one of the most emotional experiences of their lives besides marriage. When I was a kid I was homeschooled so the best way for me to be social and get to know people was to go off to summer camps. I went to girl scout camps, horse camps, and I went to the sea camps down at A&M Galveston and it all prepared me for living away from home, but the one thing that most people take for granted when they move away from home is their parents. I have to say that when I left home I never thought I would miss my parents but I do and I email my mom regularly now. Yes, that is right I still email.

Is college difficult? College is only difficult if you have a negative outlook on it and take the first impressions in a horrible way. I had a roommate my first year here (fall and spring semester) that always was really down on herself and she went through a small depression and she would always bring her problems to me and I would be more than happy to listen but there were times where I just didn’t want too. There is a time that comes up in life when you have to make a decision about the people around you and it will be one of the hardest things that you will do. The best advice I can give to someone who is or was in my position is to help them as long as you can and then when you start to see it impacting you negatively then take a step back and let them know that you need to take some time for yourself.

How do you deal with negativity during college? In a dorm especially you can get stressed really easily but, one of the best things to do is find a place where you can be by yourself and have time to think and decompress everything that has happened. It can be anywhere, the courtyard, a library any place on your campus that you find where not a lot of people go is probably going to be your get away. My school has a small boat basin and when I really need it I go down and sit by the water and just let all my worries and stresses melt away. It is really important for your mental and physical health to find a place where you can sit down or workout and get everything out of your mind or you might have a breakdown and then no one will know why unless you tell them.

I had a week or so during the spring semester where I wasn’t talking to my roommate or suitemates because I was going through things. I knew that I wasn’t myself and the first thing I wanted to do was crawl into my shell and cry, but instead, I got myself out of the dorm and went for a run in the parking lot every day and I would sit at the boat basin and go to the library to study. It was the best choice that I made for myself and it happens pretty often to me and I know how to combat it when I feel like I am not being myself anymore.

What is the most important thing to have in college? The most important thing to have in college is to know who you are, what you stand for, know that you have your family behind you supporting you and to make friends that will support you no matter what. I started going with my friend to a cigar lounge where he would play Dungeons and Dragons (D&D) and I got to know the owner, and the other people which quickly meant that I was around people who were going to support me. It was important for me to have support around me because I do get stressed easily and when I am stressed I cry which is normal because it is just the body telling us to let out all the pent-up feelings.

After my first semester at University, I failed two classes and went on academic probation, during the spring semester I worked harder than I did before to pass my class but I only failed one class which was Business Calculus. I am still on academic probation and it sucks because I am at my dream school and if I don’t get my GPA up to a 2.0 or higher I can get suspended or kicked out of school. This is the type of stress that everyone will face at least once in their lives unless they are in the honors programs then they won’t worry. I work hard and I study a lot but what’s the point of studying if you aren’t doing good in school? Well, that is negative thinking and when I get into that thinking I like to go to the gym or go sit on the boat dock or the beach and get myself back into a positive mindset.

How does college change you? College can change you in the best way possible especially if you haven’t found yourself yet. If you have found yourself then it will help you learn even more and help you understand how you work and how things affect you. I know myself and I have continued to learn more about myself as I grow and change into the adult that I am today, but it’s also about changing into a better you. What do I mean by a better you? Well, I mean that if you know who you are, what you stand for and enjoy life then it will start to throw curve balls at you to see how it will affect you and it’s your choice always if it is handled in a good positive way or  if it isn’t handled at all and things become negative. The best way to deal with that is to once again know who you are and know how to make yourself get into the process of thinking quick on your feet.

I have had to learn in the middle of a semester to change my study habits from occasionally studying to studying on weekends to studying every day. It is a constant struggle and there is no right way to do any of it but, our parents raised us to know how to deal with things like this ever since we were kids. The one thing about college is you leave knowing that your parent’s love you and care for you, but you never realize how much you appreciate them until they aren’t around 24/7.

One thing me, my brother and sister learned when we went off to Universities is that we grew up in such a good space where we could study what we wanted and know what we ant, read what we want and still have fun. However when we were homeschooling we went on road trips to state and national parks around the United States (I am from Texas), and we never realized how much we appreciated those trips till we left home and were around people who came straight out of high school. We learned that we were more mature and much more level headed and we never wanted to do anything too crazy. There are many people who are raised with going to public and private schools every day Monday to Friday and have become level headed and then when they get to college they just want to party and don’t realize how much work there actually is to do.

What advice do you have for incoming students? The best advice I can give to people is what has already been said. Know yourself, know what you stand for, know how you study and how to keep negativity out of your life or at least under control. It’s hard to know how to get things under control when your parents aren’t around. The best piece of advice I could give to anyone leaving home for the first time is that when something bad happens don’t go run to your parents or guardians try to handle it yourself first and then if you still can’t figure it out talk to the people you trust the most. I have had to do this on numerous occasions but I always manage to figure it out on my own. It’s also okay f you don’t have a job while in school because you can find ways to make yourself feel good about what you are doing by working your hardest. I don’t have a job and I feel so much better at the end of a semester when I see grades that aren’t failing grades.

Just know to be yourself and keep in touch with your parents but also learn who you are and how you work, don’t be afraid to ask for help and most importantly be sure to have fun when you are done studying.

 

 

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March is around the corner!!!!

I am going to be 8 months pregnant starting Monday, and I am starting to come to terms with things and am starting to acknowledge my fears. I have decided I want to have the baby in Galveston at UTMB where I was born and since we don’t know the gender of the baby but we have chosen names and since then I think I know what we are having. We chose the name Alister Storm for a boy and Rosemary Kay for a girl. Once we chose these names I just absolutely fell in love with the name Rosemary Kay and of course, the baby will have the dad’s last name. Ever since we chose the names and I fell in love with the girl’s name it registered that I could be having a girl but it also feels like I am having a girl.

When I was younger I always knew that I would have kids but I always wanted to have only boys, but now that I feel like I am having a girl I am feeling at peace with that because I couldn’t imagine having anything but a little girl as my first baby. I have thoughts already on how I want to raise the baby and I know me and the dad still need to talk about how we both want to raise it, but I know we will be on the same page.

I just thought that I would check in with the blog and make sure that I get some thoughts down and out into the world. I am getting ready to be a new mom and I might be scared but ready for it but I am mostly scared of giving birth.

Update!!!

I am officially 31 weeks pregnant! I am still so scared and I haven’t seen my man in like a month because we have had some financial hits like his car caught fire on Christmas Eve.  He now has a new car and it’s a pickup truck with a back seat. I have about 8 weeks left and am still not sure what I am having but that is okay with me because I am fine if this one is a surprise. I have severe upper back pain and it drives me crazy I also have a weird underboob rash or something like a rash that has been irritating me.

We are currently getting ready to tell our families and the only reason we have waited is that we have wanted to get an apartment and some other things first but since the due date is middle of March then I know we need to tell them really soon and the only big issue with it is that the families are going to worry about me finishing school which I fully plan to do. I want to finish my college career because it will show this baby that you can achieve your dreams no matter what crosses your path.

I know I will get a lot of crap for not telling our families but it has been our choice and we both know that we aren’t ready to be parents since I am only 22 and he is going to be 22 this year. I am not sure how my grandparents will react to it but I do have a soon to be 93-year-old grandmother who I am afraid will have a heart attack or something from the news. We are both scared and unsure of what is going to happen once this baby arrives but we are just hoping that we will have lots and lots of support for the baby and for me to finish school since the dad is working.

Why I Vanished!

I have kind of touched on why I have been once before but now I think it is time for the real reasons that I have been gone.

I have had to get prepared to talk about this and get ready mentally and emotionally ready for it. I have been sick for the past couple months and I keep getting colds which I am really annoyed with but I have to deal with it.

I wasn’t ready to explain why I have been missing from writing every day for this blog but now I think I can tell y’all that has been going on with me and my body which is constantly changing!!!

I found out over the summer that I am pregnant and expecting my FIRST child! I am 22 which is making me really worried about it and providing for this child and I know if I don’t talk on this someone is going to ask where is the dad is he involved are y’all married and all that jazz. I am with the dad we are engaged and he is very very present during this pregnancy.I am a college student and I still live at home but we are currently looking for an apartment near my college that we can afford so that I can continue school and finish college. I am still working up the courage to tell my parents the only thing that has stopped me and him from telling them is that we are young and I am in college and I have had to get ready to be mentally ready to take all the looks and talk about why we are going to have a hard time with it and all this other stuff.

I have dealt with looks from people on my campus who are younger than me by a couple years and since I am super emotional now I don’t take the people talking about me and staring at me when they don’t know me at all. I am just super emotional and anytime my man comes to see me when I am at school then when he leaves now I always have to have time to cry into his chest so he can hold me and I can feel the comfort and love and support that I need every day. I haven’t been to a doctor yet which is fine, I don’t know what I am having but I do know that this is a happy and healthy baby and it loves its dad and loves to make my sleep schedule absolutely miserable by stabbing my lungs when I am trying to sleep and moves a lot just to wake me up in the mornings.

I have been asked what I am having and I thought at one point it was a boy but once me and the dad picked out names it hit me with the strongest feeling in the world that I am having a little girl which is the scariest thing for me because I am not ready to have a little mini-me!!!! The dad is super excited and I am currently working on getting confident in my own body and getting out of a funk. I am not sad that I am gaining weight because I know it is normal and I just am not confident in my body these days because I don’t fit in my shirts very well anymore which makes me uncomfortable and when I feel comfortable I am at my most confident.

I am going to be a mom to a precious little baby in a couple months!!!! I know this baby will be due in March which I am worried about because my mom had my sister during Super Bowl Sunday and I am so scared this baby is going to arrive during March Maddness which I don’t want to happen because I am afraid the dad will be watching the basketball games while I am in the hospital in labor. He better not or I will be so pissed off. I love him so much though he brings out my confidence and deals with my insecurities and my hormones and everything. I don’t really have any stretch marks yet on my stomach but my boobs have some serious stretch marks on them and I am fine with that.

Back at it

I’m back at it for right now. I have been super busy with life and I had to do some things for family and now. I can only write when I can and this semester at college for me will be pretty rare but I hope that it won’t be. I have many papers that I need to write and I am staying on top of myself and keeping up with everything a lot easier than what anyone taking 16 hours could do.

I am staying positive by meeting people who are sort of like me and give me that special push that I love and they help me stay positive and are just as busy as I am.

Work Hard and get Results!

I had an economics test today and I didn’t do so good on the first test so I decided to change up my study habits, where I study before class and then I go into class and get the information again. I am so proud of myself and this is the biggest deal for me.

If you are in college and you have done bad on a test before then you understand that every time you do bad you have to turn around and change your study habits. I did exactly that by studying before class and then by getting the information twice, it worked really well. What also helps is if I write things down on index cards. I work hard and now the results are showing on my tests.

This is only a short post because I haven’t been feeling too good but I am doing much better in class now. It does show that if you know how to study for you then your hard work will show on tests and homework.